“We all wanna be loved. Tell me, what’s wrong with that?”
Those words come from an old dc Talk song, and they resonate with our hearts. The answer to the question is “Nothing.” There’s nothing wrong with wanting love; this longing is at the core of being human.
We’re born desiring love, desiring companionship, desiring relational intimacy. In childhood some of us – though not all of us – receive that kind of love from a parent or parents. But even then, we grow older and long for more. We long for closeness, acceptance, safety in relationships as we grow nearer adulthood. Amanda Seibel reflects on this in a piece for Desiring God titled, “Do I Want Marriage More Than Jesus?”
When single youths turn into single adults…anticipation and longing can easily fill up our heart. Marriage is a beautiful thing to desire. God makes it clear that it is a treasure and, when done in his grace and strength, can even be a taste of heaven on earth. Longing for marriage is not in the least bit wrong.
However, one thing that we can easily forget is that marriage, in all of its beauty and glory, is still at its very best only a taste of heaven.
Seibel uses a helpful illustration to show how earthly marriage – beautiful as it is – pales in comparison to the reality of marriage to Christ as His bride. Even as a married person, it helped open my eyes to the enormous disparity that should exist in the way I think about and value marriage to Christ versus the way I think about and value earthly marriage.
Whether you are single or married, I would encourage you to read the full piece to let it remind you, and help put you in awe of, the wondrous truth of marital union with Jesus.
Link: Desiring God
While God is faithful to change hearts and minds in the lives of His children, we also understand that change is a process, and often times far from simplistic or quick. Habits of life and thinking tend to change over time as the Holy Spirit works in hearts. This process of change is called “progressive sanctification.” It can be helpful and sometimes necessary to seek help from other Christians who can faithfully lead and walk with us, providing biblical encouragement and instruction along the way for the implementation of God-honoring, Christ-centered change. If you are struggling with life’s challenges, we would encourage you to seek help from your pastor, a godly friend, or a biblical counselor who is committed to seeking answers from God’s Word. To find a biblical counselor you can contact us or visit biblicalcounseling.com to find a counselor in your area.
Born and raised in the Dallas area, Ryan loves calling Texas his home. He met his wife Jessica at Grace Bible Fellowship Church, where he serves on staff and is a counselor for Grace Biblical Counseling Ministries. Since 2013 he has been a member of the Association of Certified Biblical Counselors, and in May 2015 he graduated from Moody Bible Institute with a B.S. in Ministry Leadership.